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Too many guys in this world have the completely wrong idea about what women want. For some reason, our society has no problem perpetuating the myth that women want a tall, dark, handsome, rich guy who drives a Porsche and is a powerful, successful businessman.

Not so much. Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that the guy who meets all those criteria is a slouch in the dating department. No way, that guy gets more action than the rest of us put together. But my point is that you don’t have to be that guy to please the average woman. Even the woman who is drop dead gorgeous, super intelligent and possibly has the most engaging personality around may not want that guy.

Women don’t always want to date someone who has a higher social value than they do. Sometimes they are looking for other traits in the men they date, fall in love with and marry. Let’s take a look at five things that women want:

1. Women want someone who knows what he wants. That means a guy who isn’t afraid to have an opinion and isn’t afraid to have strong likes and dislikes. It is extremely attractive to women to date a man who has enough empathy to care about what she wants, but isn’t afraid to speak his mind about what he wants.

2. Women want someone who takes care in his appearance. You don’t have to be that tall, dark and handsome guy. In fact, you truly don’t even need to be handsome. What you need to be is well groomed. You need to make sure everything about you is groomed and that you have taken time to find clothing that flatters your body and makes you look your best. It isn’t hard to do. You can easily ask for help from a sales clerk. Invest in some really good clothes and keep them pressed and polished. Make sure your hair is nice, you smell good and your nails are clean. It’s not rocket science, guys. Learn it. Live it.

3. Women want someone who listens. It is helpful to be witty and able to engage in stimulating conversation, but the hands down most valuable trait you can develop is the art of listening. Anyone who is a good listener is automatically viewed as a great conversationalist. Women want to be heard.

4. Women want someone who is fun. Don’t be so serious all the time. Let out your inner child and don’t be afraid to make fun or yourself every once in a while. It will make you very lovable.

5. Women want someone who makes them feel good about themselves. Look at it this way: Your job as a man is to make your woman feel good about herself. If you don’t have anything nice to say or any way to build your date’s self-esteem, then you should be dating someone else. Spread a little love around and recognize all the wonderful qualities that another person has to offer.

Bill has been a pick up artist for the last 5 years in NYC and can teach you the skills you need to be one, as well, including how to text a girl. The original article can be found here: What Girls Want in Guys.

I’m sure some of you have checked out the forums and saw the poll I posted. If not make sure you, but check it out and vote! Anyway, As most of you know I am half Italian and half Portuguese. My father is full blooded Portuguese and his family came from the Azores (islands off of Portugal). Growing up people asked me a lot of questions about my background.

Where I live everyone is Irish so seeing a girl with a slight tan, dark thick eyebrows and blue eyes wasn’t something you saw every day. Many asked me if I was Spanish, and I would reply no, I’m Portuguese. Some people would say OK and that would be the end of that, other’s would then say oh you are Portuguese? So you are Spanish. Then we would get into a big conversation about whether Portuguese was covered under the blanket term of Spanish or Hispanic. I don’t think it was my actual background that people questioned and tried to understand it was more because of my look and features. It was like I wasn’t white enough for everyone so if I wasn’t white I had to be something else. And I think it was easiest for people to just explain it away as me being Spanish.

If you think of the World Map, You have Spain and it’s kind of its on separate land mass and right next to it on the same land mass is Portugal. So if you think about it nothing is really separating Spain and Portugal so I’m assuming there is a lot of movement back and forth between the two countries. So if being Spanish was a category wouldn’t you think Portuguese would fall under that same category?

As I got older I started to notice that more and more people were putting me into the “Spanish” group. I love to dance and went to salsa lesson and have been dancing Merengue since I was young. Because I happen to have a passion for dancing that made me “Spanish.” I also happen to love rice and beans and I speak with my hands and I’m a passionate person, so again I fit the mold of a Spanish Woman. But was I really Spanish?! I wore my hair in a high pony tail and my skin was white, so how come I wasn’t the white girl next door. It was like I fit every stereotype but who says stereotypes are right? Who says just because you fit a stereotype means you are that? I’m sure you can think of someone that you know that fits a stereotype for a group of people like Black, Spanish, Jewish, etc but aren’t actually that, so why in my case were so many people so quick to throw me into a labeled group?

As I began to form my own opinions on the topic I decided that my ethnicity would be determined by how I felt about myself and how I identified myself. But of course depending on the day that changed! Sometimes I did feel like I was Spanish and sometimes I felt like I was just another white girl like everyone else around me. So when it came to filling out demographic information for schools and activities I never knew what to check of for “Are you Spanish or Hispanic” question. They don’t give you many options, it’s either yes or no. There is no box for I don’t know, or I consider myself Spanish but others don’t or others consider me Spanish but I don’t. I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t want to skew the data but at the same time I wanted to make sure I was represented correctly.

When I got to college and my identity crisis continued, people would ask me if I checked the Spanish box off. I didn’t check off that box for my college applications because my mom told me not to so I didn’t. A lot of people in college said I should have checked it off because it would have helped my chances of getting into certain schools and also I could get financial aid because of my background. Now I was all confused!! I didn’t want to rip the system off but if my background entitled me to services I wanted to take advantage. I went through college without exploring these avenues but still wondering.

So here I am today…Still half Italian and half Portuguese, still being told I’m Spanish and being told I’m not….What do you think? Would you consider me Hispanic/Spanish? Has anyone run into anything similar?

I am a 25 year old, soon to be 26 year old half Italian, half Portuguese girl from the South Shore of Boston, MA. I currently reside on the Cape and have spent a lot of time outside of Massachusetts. ISwirl.info

The Chinese wedding ceremony is like a machine that needs a manual to build. It’s customs and traditions are elaborately prepared and connotes different meanings. Such symbols and meanings were handed down from generations to generations and still being practiced in modern China. Some innovations were integrated but the meanings remain the same.

Chinese wedding tradition is bounded by ancient principles. The principles were highly traditional as well as desirable. Respect for parents and ancestors is the primary principle being strictly observed along with rituals to drive away bad omens, fanciful exchange of gifts and the merging of the bride with her husband’s family.

If you are not of Chinese descendants and you are marrying a Chinese woman, be prepared for the extensive and highly elaborated rituals from proposal up to a couple of days after the wedding. For the Chinese people, marriage is a major responsibility that it cannot be left for the couple to decide on themselves. In fact, they are not involved with the arrangements. A go-between, (akin to a sales agent) will negotiate the wedding between the two families. Neither the bride nor the groom will have any say on the matter. Every aspect will be considered: from your family’s background, financial condition, present obligations and reputation, numerology, astrology as well as the ability to provide food on the table.

When everything has been agreed upon, the rituals will start. From the day before the wedding, wedding day itself, and 3 days thereof, consists of numerous rituals. The bride will undergo hair dressing ritual and combing ritual. The groom will also experience being blocked by the bride’s friends and will answer questions or pay her friends to get his bride. The bride’s travel from her house to the groom’s place is also rich with rituals. She is to use a red veil and red umbrella to protect her from evil. Her path will be strewn with red bean or rice, symbols of fertility.

The rituals before and after the wedding are filled with rituals that the wedding ceremony pales in comparison. Simplicity and respect mixed with humility – this is what the ceremony is. It consists of bowing to Heaven and Earth, paying respects to the ancestors, bowing to each other by the couple then eating together. Such a simple ceremony, you may ask, do they need wedding favors?

Of course, they do. To some of us, the Chinese fans are promotional products for tropical countries and costume shops. But for the Chinese people, it signifies their grace and culture. What better way to give away as favors than wedding fans?

Giving away of wedding fans are viewed as symbols of good luck charms and generosity. If written in Chinese chirography, the word ‘fan’ has the same sound with the characters used to describe ‘kindness.’ However, it is highly discouraged to give the bride a fan as a wedding gift. The pronunciation of fan is ‘san’ which also means scatter and it is a bad omen.

Jesse Jake Vickers enjoys writing for Hqweddingfavors.com and Corporatesnobs.com which offer wedding favors and promotional pens as well as a host of additional products.

Most men who are looking to meet women usually have two focuses – making themselves attractive to women and figuring out just where to meet someone.

I have the answer that will allow you to multi task: join a gym.

Even if you are in great shape, joining a gym can do multiple things to help you in your search to meet women. It can help you broaden or even create a social network, it can get you more in touch with your body and physical activity that releases endorphins and it gives you a chance to meet women away from a bar or club environment.

If you want to meet women, one good method is to build your social circle. The more people you know, the more likely you are to meet women to date or even the woman of your dreams to marry. Many successful relationships stemmed from someone introducing two friends or acquaintances to one another. It just makes sense. There is automatically a filter system in place – you have already weeded out most of the crazies and psychos (men and women) just by having a friend who recommends them. So joining a gym and making friends with everyone you can is a fantastic way to beef up your social circle.

The second benefit is the actual physical activity. Be sure to join a gym that offers a broad range of activities, much more than just weight lifting alone. This is key because they number of women who lift is not very high. So look for a gym that has classes, such as yoga and spin and stretching. Ideally, you will want to join a gym that has a swimming pool and room for teams, such as volleyball. Find what guns your motor and join at least one of those classes. You will meet other people, both men and women and will benefit, not only physically but emotionally and mentally as your body releases those feel good endorphins that will help you be happier and more at peace.

Now, here is a crucial point if you are joining a gym to meet women: you need to enroll in classes at the gym that are classes that traditionally attract women. I’m talking yoga, aerobics, and spin class, whatever. Do a little reconnaissance beforehand, maybe while you are getting your tour of the gym before you actually sign up. During this time, pay attention to what classes seem full of women and short of men. Join those classes. Go in there, be a good sport, be the nice, friendly guy that you are and guess what? You are bound to meet women. You will stand out by being the only guy in your class and chances are some o those women will be intrigued by you and even take you under their wing. So say the woman you sit beside in yoga class is married … make friends with her. You never know when she decides you are the perfect guy to meet her single best friend or her adorable little sister.

Bill has been teaching men How to Get a Girlfriend for the last 5 years in NYC and is a pick up artist who can help you learn to do the same. The original article can be found here: Best Kept Secret on Meeting Women.

The other day a friend of mine sent me an email saying his wife was running in the Susan G. Komen race to raise money for breast cancer. It just so happens that another mutual friend of ours has a mother who is currently undergoing treatment for this scary disease.

A decision was made by my friend that his wife would wear this woman’s name on her t-shirt and dedicate her run to this mutual friend’s mother.

A mass email was sent out to dozens of members of the seduction community – those men who teach other men how to meet and pick up women. The response was mind boggling. The support for women with breast cancer and the support to find a cure for breast cancer was impressive. Men were not hesitating to donate $500, even $1,000, to this worthy cause.

Within a few moments, my friend’s wife was one of the top earners in the donation race in her state. And only a small portion of the emails had been seen at that point. Who knows what the final tally ended up being. All I know is that members of the seduction community impressed the heck out of me.

This just goes to prove that men working in the seduction community are lovers of women not misogynists as some ignorant people might erroneously assume. What a completely wrong stereotype. Outsiders might mistakenly think the seduction community is out to exploit women or use women in ways that are not good for women.

Nothing could be farther than the truth.

While it must be said there are a few bad eggs out there, the large majority of men teaching pick up artist skills, place a huge emphasis on their students acting with respect, honesty and integrity in all their dealings with women. It is all about learning how to be the best person you can be so you can attract quality women into your life. Many men learning pick up artist skills are ultimately seeking the woman of their dreams whom they can one day make into their wife.

A lot of what is taught in the seduction community is how to make your own life so wonderful that you don’t need a partner in it, but want one. It is that difference between want and need. Where you want a women to enhance the life you already have. By living a great life, you also become extremely attractive to everyone you meet. The majority of pick up artists are teaching men how to improve their lives so they can become the best men they can be so that when they meet their dream girls they are at the bet they can be and can offer a woman they best of themselves.

I think that any opportunity that can be taken to show people out there that the members of the seduction community are really upstanding guys and gals should be taken.

This pouring forth of monetary support for women fighting breast cancer and for a race for the cure is only one demonstration of that respect.

Bill has been teaching guys how to text a girl for the last 5 years in NYC and is a pick up artist who can help you learn to do the same. The original article can be found here: Seduction Community Supports Women.

There is an exercise I came across a few years ago that involves visualization as a tool to become the man or woman you dream of becoming.

I call it “Your Inner Stud.” Now before you laugh too hard about this, remember that you can tailor this name to anything you want, but what it reflects is the person inside you that you are dying to let out.

So for instance, it could be “Your Inner Don Juan” or “Your Inner Adonis” or “Your Inner Rico Suave” or “Your Inner Rock Star.” Pick a name that embodies the personality or person you are striving toward becoming, whatever or whoever that might be. What you decide to name it doesn’t matter. It is what you do with it, which does.

Then, here is what I want you to do. Create a portrait, much like a magazine profile of this “inner” you. I want you to write about what this guy does every day from the minute he gets up until he goes to bed. I want you to write about what he eats, what he wears, what activities he engages in and where he goes.

I want you to describe how he spends his money, what his apartment or house is like and how he spends his leisure time.

So let me give you an example. My Inner Stud is James:

“James wakes up in the morning and does 20 pushups before he heads to his clean and tidy kitchen. (He makes a point every night to make sure his house is clean before he retires so that he wakes up to a calm and sparkling home.)

In his small, uncluttered kitchen, he uses stainless steel pots he carefully saved up for, to heat up a small amount of whole milk. In his Krupp’s espresso maker, he brews a strong cup of fair trade coffee beans.

He reads the New York Times while he drinks his coffee and eats his whole grain toast and some fruit. He wants to be sure he is up on current events so he can contribute intelligently to any conversation.

After he showers and shaves, he looks into his closet full of a few simple, but beautiful cut suits. He chooses one and makes sure his shoes are freshly polished before he heads out the door. At night, he never throws his clothes on the floor, but hangs them neatly and keeps them dry cleaned frequently.

He could take the bus to work, but prefers to walk to keep his build trim and fit.

He does go to the gym a few nights a week, on the nights when he isn’t in his Chinese class or playing volleyball with friends. He also makes sure to spend time with his friends at good restaurants at least once a week and often hosts dinner parties where he can practice his cooking skills.

As he walks to work, he mentally makes a list of who he is going to invite this week …”

OK, so this example only deals with My Inner Stud’s morning routine, but you get the idea. You paint a picture of how you want your life to be and then you read it every morning and every night. This will help you become this person you write about; it will help you become your Inner Stud.

Bill has been teaching men How to Get a Girlfriend for the last 5 years in NYC and is a pick up artist who can help you learn to do the same. The original article can be found here: Your Inner Stud.

There are many ways to build your social circle, which really can be important if you are trying to learn how to meet women.

When I moved to New York City only knowing one person, I made a point to say hello to everyone I came across: the doormen, the bartenders, the bouncers, the coffee shop workers, everyone. Then what happened is I would introduce myself and they began to recognize me and we became acquaintances. Sometimes I would see some of these people from my neighborhood out at night and I would go up and talk to them until I had a big group of people I knew.

Another activity that really helped me form and cement meaningful relationships was joining a volleyball team. I had to take the lead in that case, but I was able to make long-lasting friendships by starting out on a small level. For instance, every time we had a game I would invite the entire team to meet me and my other friends at a bar or club afterward. We’d often have a huge group of people and I would introduce my volleyball friends to my other friends. Eventually my volleyball friends and I would have our own barbecues and created our own social circle outside of sports.

I also really believe in using media such as MySpace and Facebook to create a social circle. There is nothing wrong with asking someone for their information and then contacting them later to join you and other friends for a drink or whatever. Facebook is nice because there is a bit of prescreening involved, as well. You can be fairly confident that a friend of a friend is probably going to be someone you can relate to.

I made a point to talk to everyone everywhere I went and then to merge my different social contacts into one. I never hesitated to invite my roommate, the waitress at the cafe and my volleyball opponents all to the same activity. They loved it. They would have a good time but also they were able to meet new people.

Eventually my social circle grew to the point where I really had no need to look outside of the people I already knew to find a buddy to watch football with or a girl to take to the Yankees game. I really had a vibrant social circle within a few months of living in New York.

Which is totally crazy if you think about it and realize that I showed up in a city of 8 million people only knowing one person, my friend. I think that if I can do it, anyone can do it. It takes being friendly, honest and outgoing a bit. You don’t have to be gregarious and the life of the party, but you do have to be willing to approach strangers. You also have to be a leader sometimes, taking charge of inviting others to get together. Most people want to get together but few take the initiative. If you do this, you will be ahead of the game and surprised at the results.

Bill has been teaching men How To Text A Girl for the last 5 years in NYC and is a pick up artist who can help you learn to do the same. The original article can be found here: Building Your Social Circle.

How many times have you been to a wedding where you wish you could just take the centerpieces home from the reception to use as home decor? At your wedding reception, your centerpieces are one of the first things people look at and will determine the mood of your party. Centerpiece ideas can range from fun and casual to sheik and elegant and is considered one of the most important elements in decorating at your reception. If you are on a tight budget here are some fun, yet simple ideas for beautiful centerpieces.

The best way to save money on your centerpieces is to collect pictures and ideas of things that you love, and think about the mood you want to create with your theme. The key to saving money on your centerpieces is to shop around and make sure you get the best price possible. Remember, just because you buy one item from a store does not mean you have to buy everything there.

Candle centerpieces are very popular right now. This is a great idea if you are on a very tight budget and it looks very nice without costing so much. You want to get around 3 different heights of candles. Putting some height to your centerpieces will add so much to the look of the room. You can sprinkle rose petals or confetti around the candles to really make them pop.

If you really want a floral centerpiece but think they are too expensive, go talk with your local florist. Think about the size and season of flowers that you want. If the florist knows what your budget is, I’m sure they can recommend the best ideas to help you stay within your budget. You can also do a simple floral arrangement yourself to save some money. You can buy ivy, cover the pot with moss then add a few small roses. This is a simple yet elegant idea.

Another really popular idea this season for weddings is ostrich feather centerpieces. This is a great alternative to a huge, elaborate, and expensive arrangement of flowers. Ostrich feathers can really make a room pop. You can even have the feathers dyed to your wedding colors. The ostrich feather centerpieces look fabulous and are something different that your guests will never forget.

For a wedding in the fall, you can use an assortment of cylinder vases all in different heights. You can fill them with different fruits or vegetables. For example, red or green apples, lemons, small pumpkins etc. You can even stick a couple of branches in the vases as well to make it pop and add height.

No matter what centerpieces you choose to use, make sure it’s something that reflects your personality. Just because you might be on a tight budget this does not mean your centerpieces have to suffer. Be creative and I’m sure you will end up with a beautiful centerpiece that no one will forget.

Lindsay Crawford is a writer for Wholesale Event Solutions, a company offering discount wedding and event planning supplies including eiffel tower vases, ostrich plumes, battery operated candles wholesale, and much more!

If you are struggling in the dating world there may be a chance that you are not in touch with your masculine side.

Oftentimes people think to be a man, they have to act like jerks.

This is the farthest thing from the truth. Being masculine and being a jerk are not synonymous.

Being a jerk means not caring about the other person. Being a jerk means being selfish. Being a jerk means hurting and possibly abusing other people. Being a jerk means being oblivious to other people’s wants, needs and desires.

In contrast, being masculine means setting boundaries. Being masculine means knowing what you want and don’t want. Being masculine means knowing what works for you and what doesn’t work.

For instance, being a jerk means not showing up or calling when you say you will.

Being a man means not continuing to date a woman who doesn’t show up or call when she says she will.

See the difference?

Being a man means not pouting, whining or even getting angry when a woman doesn’t live up to your expectations. If the woman is not acting in a way consistent with your own needs and desires, calmly walk away with dignity and integrity. That is being a man. That is being masculine.

A masculine man is not afraid to express his opinions, wants, desires. He makes decisions without hesitating. A masculine man is not wishy washy.

A real man is not domineering. He knows that to be in control and have power does not mean using physical force or manipulation.

He does not have to yell. He does not have to bully or coerce. He does not have to intimidate.

A real man exudes confidence and as a nice side effect, this attracts everyone around him like magnets.

He is charismatic because he knows and likes himself. He is real because he is in touch with his emotions. He’s not afraid to show his emotions, but does exercise restraint when it comes to negative emotions such as jealousy and anger.

He knows when to leave the room and compose himself rather than lose his temper or lose control.

A real, masculine man takes the lead, but is also open to what others want to do. He doesn’t walk around with the belief that it is his way or the highway.

A real, masculine man is aware that everything he says and does has an impact on other people and the world.

He doesn’t walk through the world oblivious to its problems, but also doesn’t carry the weight of the world on his shoulders.

He does what he can and knows that it is enough to make small, meaningful changes in his life that may affect the world.

A masculine man is not threatened by other men who may be richer, more handsome or more charming. He knows that he is a unique individual who has just as much to offer a woman or society.

A real man knows himself and loves himself. As a result, everyone loves him.

Bill has been studying how to be a pick up artist for the last 5 years in NYC and can help you learn how to pick up women and how to get a girlfriend . The original article can be found here: A Real Man.

If you have just begun a relationship with a woman and you find yourself now searching the Internet to see if she has borderline personality disorder this may be your first red flag that your relationship is in some sort of trouble. The good news is you are hopefully catching things early and can position yourself better to deal with the fact that she may have borderline personality disorder. Many men get wrapped up in almost trapped into relationships with women with borderline personality disorder because of their unique ability to make you feel sorry for them and for them to place blame on others for why their life is the way it is. Here are some common things that may be red flags for borderline personality disorder or narcissism and the woman you have begun dating.

1. Does she immediately open up to you about abuse in her past?

2. Does she trash her ex-boyfriend or ex-husband even before you hardly get to know her. Does she seem to go on and on about her ex and how he ruined her life?

3. Does she have an unstable relationship with her parents?

4. Does she say bad things about her parents to you?

5. Does she seem very quick to fall in love with you and almost view you as her knight in shining armor?

6. Was she quick to have sex with you?

7. Does she have a difficult time being friends with other women?

8. Does she currently only have one friend that seems to keep coming back in and out of her life or does she have no friends at all?

9. Does it seem like a lot of bad things keep happening to her? Thrown out by her boyfriend, trouble with finances, trouble keeping a job etc

10. Does she seem to have very compelling stories and reasoning that explains why the bad things have happened to her (example, her ex-boyfriend made her run up her credit card debts and that’s why her credit is bad)

11. Does she seem to want to move the relationship forward at a very quick pace?

12. She shown an interest in moving in with you?

13. Does she have screaming fits in front of you?

14. Does she start horrible yelling fights with you and when you try to leave she begs for you to stay?

15. But the she bought you extravagant gifts?

16. Is she willing to explore risky sexual behaviors?

17. Does she abuse drugs or alcohol?

If you’ve answered yes to more than a few of these questions the woman you’re dating may have borderline personality disorder. Regardless of whether she has BPD or not this is probably not a woman you want to have a long-term relationship with. Don’t get caught up in the whole “she needs me I can fix her” game, trust me, her ex-boyfriend thought the same thing. Good luck with your relationship, and remember the first thing I’m mentioned in this article if you are looking things up about your girlfriend online thinking she may have a mental illness that’s probably not a good sign.

For more information on BPD please check out http://www.bpdsecrets.com.